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Love, Real Life Confusion
Ok,
here's my problem:
There's
a girl I really like. We talk online a lot where we’re very close in flirty.
However, as soon as we’re in person she's totally cold. I don't understand.
Does this mean she doesn't like me and is just messing with me? I feel like just confronting her and asking her up
front - would this be a good idea?
-Online and Annoyed
A question of our generation. Instant Messaging is
a lot of fun, but an entirely unreliable basis for a relationship.
Never depend on the impression you get from an internet conversation because
it's an artificial medium - people have a chance to edit what they say before they say it, and despite all the
smileys and whatnot, you can never quite tell how much meaning any one comment has without hearing the tone
in which someone says it.
With that said, I don't think you have a hopeless case, but
I would not go running to pour your heart out to her. Start by analyzing your behavior.
Have you been at all reserved when you're around her? Often, people are
uncomfortable around the people they like because they are intimidated or scared of making a bad impression.
In fact, this girl may be playing it cool because she doesn't know how you feel.
Unless you've actually told her you like her, she cant know for sure (no
matter how many hints you've dropped). So here is what I would do: ask her (casually) if
she would like to hang out. Make it in a non-pressure situation, maybe with mutual friends.
If she puts you off or rejects you, than you have probably read more into the
relationship than she has and should start trying to shake off the crush.
However, if she says yes, start building an in-person relationship and gradually phase
out the internet one. Good luck!
-Advice Kid.
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